Just an ordinary girl

There is no such a perfect friendship

Main topic that we have been talking lately is about friendship. 2 days ago after a class, one of my friends asked me to stay because she wanted to share her problems. She started by complaining about her housemate. To make it easy let us call her “A” and her housemate “B”. She said that B always tries to compete with her. “A” believes that “B” does it because she feels insecure with her self. B always compares everything that she has done with A in uncomfortable way. In addition B often makes A feel bad, for example one time B said that A is fat, another time B said that A is black and so on. More over, B always feels lazy doing household routine like boiling drinking water, putting everything in the kitchen at the right place, etc. It seems that B has really made A reach her limit. I think this is why she finally needs to share it with me. That night A spent almost 2 hours to talk about this matter and I had to go home late.

In other occasion other friend (C) told me about her previous housemate (D). She was surprised me when she complained about D. Actually my impression about them is good. I though their friendship is perfect. I am sure that they love each other like sisters. Maybe it is not completely wrong, but lately C always tells me about many negative things about D. One day she told me about some clashes that they had in the past. Today I heard she said the same story to another friend.

Based on the story above I have been thinking about friendship lately. I know that nobody’s perfect and I realize that there is no such a perfect friendship. When we see people have a very good friendship usually deep down in their heart they still have complain about their friend. In my opinion if your friend makes mistakes, it is your duty to remind them and help them if they have problems. More over it is not a wise thing to tell many people about their weaknesses.

I have my own experience in friendship, and even though my friendship is not perfect but I am happy with it. I have many lovely friends and I still keep in touch with them. As we are not perfect, we have to keep and improve our friendship strong from time to time. It needs effort, understanding, love, and caring from everyone who are involved in the friendship. In conclusion, there is no such a perfect friendship but we can try to make it perfect by loving and understanding each other.

(St Lucia, 12 April 12, 2008)

posted by verni @ 12:05 AM